How to have good phone or text sex

Learning how to talk dirty on the phone or talk dirty in text messages is similar to learning how to talk dirty in person, but there are some important differences that you need to bear in mind.  Talking dirty on the phone or by text message leaves you totally reliant on your voice and words alone, as your appearance, touch, and physical energy are missing – although you can always help things along by texting a picture of yourself too.

This means that the tone of your voice, the speed at which you talk, and the dirty phrases you use must compensate for this lack of being present by igniting your man’s fantasy – replacing what’s physically unavailable with a mental projection of what is possible.  Fortunately, since a man’s fantasy can run itself and conjures up only his most important sexual ideals, he will envision you as the fantasy girl of his dreams – so long as you can trigger his fantasy to do it right.

Here are a couple things to focus on when learning how to talk dirty on the phone to your man that will inspire the proper imagery in his fantasy mind:

1)  Set The Stage:

When starting to talk dirty on the phone, paint a mental picture of where you are and what you’re doing.  If you ask him what he’s doing right now, he will most likely respond with the same question.  You can reply with something like “Oh, I’m just laying around in my silky black nighty all by myself, thinking about you and how hot you make me…”

This type of descriptive dirty talk phrase triggers his mind to perceive what that scenario looks like.  Once the stage has been set in his fantasy, you can move on.

2)  Get the “Go”:

Talking dirty on the phone obviously leads to mutual masturbation.  But before you get all hot and heavy with your dirty talk, make sure to know if that is possible for the both of you to do at that moment.  Since you already asked what he was doing – right now – you will have an idea if masturbation is even possible on his end.  If its not, you might want to save your phone sex for another time.

If you DO “get the go” you can take your dirty talk to the next level.  Saying something like “Oh my god, I’ve been so horny all day I can’t stop touching myself!” in a coy, innocent manor will add to his fantasy (in which the stage is already set) by including you masturbating in whatever way his personal fantasy thinks is the hottest way possible.

3)  Do the Deed:

Once your dirty talk has now set the stage and gotten the green light, its time to get down to talking dirty on the phone and getting super sexual.  Your dirty talk thus far has given him a mental image that you now get to manipulate in his mind.  He’s thinking about you looking hot and masturbating, so now you’d ask “Do you like when I touch myself for you?” (or whatever way you’d like to say it, using any dirty words or dirty talk phrases you know)  in which case his answer will obviously be “yes.”  You can then follow up with “Good cause I’m doing it right now”.  Music to his ears.

If you’re playing with yourself while you’re talking or texting, he will start as well.  Ask him if he’s touching himself, or just demand that he does.  This is where your real phone or text sex starts to escalate into something super hot and heavy for both of you.  You then start talking dirty to your man the way you would normally.  His masturbation replaces your touch, his fantasy replaces your presence, and your voice is in total control of it all.

Learning how to talk dirty to your man on the phone means understanding how your dirty talk affects him while the two of you are apart.  If you follow this three step method you will find it much easier to talk dirty on the phone as you would talking dirty in real life.  It’s just a matter of learning how to talk dirty to your man by manipulating his fantasy mind as the top priority of your dirty talk.

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